Author: paedwards

Sweet Lorane Community News, April 4, 2019

Fern Ridge Review
Creswell Chronicle
Sweet Lorane Community News
April 4, 2019
By Pat Edwards

As I sit here, staring at a blank computer screen because I have no idea what I’m going to talk about in this week’s column, I realize how focused I’ve become on living from day to day, doing what needs to be done. My world right now is centered on one special person who needs me and my full attention. Oh, don’t get me wrong… Jim is doing well in his healing process, and we’ve worked out a schedule of sorts for each day. But, this whole process has brought me back to those wedding vows spoken so many years ago… “in sickness and in health…” I doubt that any bride or groom really thinks about what they are pledging to do; after all, things like that happen to other people when they are old… right?… no need to worry about it.

Well, the years eventually catch up with us, but as long as we have our health, we can refer to them as our “golden years”… and they have been for Jim and me. We’ve done some traveling and experienced the birth, childhood and young adulthood of our children and grandchildren, and now we are making and sharing such beautiful memories with our great-grands. As I’ve said so often, Jim and I truly have been blessed.

Now, however, it’s time to pay the piper. It’s time to put aside my own wants and needs and fulfill those vows we took almost 55 years ago. After loving and living with someone for that long, we do tend to take our lives and each other for granted. I’ve always had my own interests and activities, and he’s had his, but we have always supported each other in whatever way we could. We never really envisioned or planned for the “in sickness and in health” part of our marriage, but I’ve found that, when we arrived at that point, there was no question about what I not only must do, but what I want to do for him. So we live each day, one at a time… together; and we’ll get through this healing process… together.

We’re both going to do everything possible to get Jim’s mobility back to where it once was, but if not, then in late May, we’re still planning the exciting trip that we have been planning for over a year with my sister and brother-in-law to Washington, D.C. and the surrounding area. We bought a portable mobility scooter that we will take with us on the trip, and we’re going to enjoy every day, week, month and year that we are allowed beyond that, because, with the fulfillment of our vows, we have rediscovered a closeness we had let slide while pursuing our own interests.

“In sickness and in health” is a commitment that should not be taken lightly. As with most of life’s lessons, you can usually find a bright light shining through the darkest of days and it’s worth the time and effort to look for it.

Sweet Lorane Community News, March 28, 2019

Fern Ridge Review
Creswell Chronicle
Sweet Lorane Community News
March 28, 2019
By Pat Edwards

Last week, I wrote about Jim’s and my lifestyle adjustments while we were forced to function with one car. During that time, he was working through some mobility issues caused by tendonitis in his hip, and those issues were compounded immensely last week when, unbeknownst to me, he fell at our store. The cortisone shot he had the day before had relieved the tendonitis pain considerably, but the next day, I noticed that he was limping again even worse than before. He assured me that he had just done too much and had pulled a muscle. By the weekend, however, I learned of his falls. Even though we went to have dinner and play bingo at the Lorane Grange as he wanted, I knew that we needed to get him checked out. The next morning, we made a trip to the RiverBend ER. Diagnosis: a broken rib and a fractured pelvis.

Let me tell those of you who don’t know him well a little bit about Jim. All of our almost-55 years of marriage, he has been a maverick and a Superman. I can count on one hand the number of times I remember him having a cold or flu. The only “down” times he’s had are due to injuries, which have been varied and many, and worn-out parts. Until he had his first hip replacement, he ran 8 miles a day in all kinds of weather, and even completed the Portland Marathon one year. For the past 41+ years, he has worked 7 days a week at our store—the Lorane Family Store—closing only on Christmas Day, although in recent years he has cut his hours considerably. He served the Crow-Applegate-Lorane School Board for over 10 years while our children were in school.

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He is the most obstinate, loving, hard-working, proud man I have ever known. He fiercely loves his family and has provided for us well, but when he needs help, he is a challenge. These past two weeks have tested each of us as we work through negotiations about how we can get him healed without further falls and stress on the fractures which have both been declared stable and should heal on their own.

With the help of the rest of our family and the prayers from so many friends, we are working through this process of healing and I am so very proud of this man who is trying so hard to work with us. It’s definitely not an easy thing for him, but he will always be my Superman.

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Reminders of local calendar events:

  • Monday, April 1: Earl Ford’s Memorial Service at Lane Memorial Gardens & Funeral Home, 5300 W. 11th Ave, Eugene, beginning at 11:00 a.m.
  • Sunday, April 7: Rural Art Center/Lorane Grange-sponsored Community Talent Show, beginning at 3:00 p.m. at the Lorane Grange.
  • Sunday, April 14: “The Living Last Supper” beginning at 11:00 a.m. at the Lorane Christian Church

Sweet Lorane Community News, March 21, 2019

Fern Ridge Review
Creswell Chronicle
Sweet Lorane Community News
March 21, 2019
By Pat Edwards

This past week has been a really strange one for Jim and me. For one thing, we had more doctors’ appointments to go to and errands to run than usual, but the most bizarre part of the week was that we only had one car between us. Jim had to take his pickup into town for some much-needed repair work and I had to delivery my car to a body shop to repair damage it sustained when the portable canopy I keep it in collapsed in the recent heavy snowfall. Fortunately, our insurance covered a rental car. We have always run our own errands with Jim doing store business in the early-morning hours—I’m talking 4:00 a.m.—two or three days a week, and me doing my own “thing” during the day in my car.

Fortunately, he agreed to cut out the early-morning trips to town. We did them while we were in town anyway for doctors’ appointments, and I became the designated driver in the rented mini-van, making several trips to take him to the store at 6:30 a.m. to open, picking him up again when he either needed to go to an appointment or when it was time to go home. Consequently, I have put all my writing and publishing projects aside and we’ve had a bit more “together time” than usual. In a way, it’s been kind of a nice change of pace.

Pat Dixon, the art and band teacher for the Crow-Applegate-Lorane School District is asking for help from the community for an upcoming class project in art. He’s planning for the class to make a “soft sculpture” that requires the use of LOTS of wire coat hangars and white or light-colored bed sheets. He is needing at least 100 coat hangars and a dozen or more sheets.

According to Pat, “If you have any amount of these things and are willing to donate them, I will even come by your home in the Crow area and pick them up personally.”

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Sadly, I have just learned that another of Crow’s life-long community members, Earl Ford, has passed. Earl and Mary Ford have been fixtures in Crow for as long as I have been involved with the school district and much longer. Earl and my husband Jim served together for many years on the C-A-L School Board and Mary was the district’s much-loved secretary during the time our kids were in school. They both were regulars at all of the sports events that their kids and ours participated in.

We saw Earl and Mary last month at this year’s alumni basketball tournament at Crow High School. It’s the first time I had seen them in a long while, but they both looked good. Earl stopped by to comment to Jim about old times. It will seem strange to know he’s gone.

Our daughter Gloria wrote a message of condolence to Earl and Mary’s daughter, Laurie, and expressed our collective family’s thoughts:

“Your parents have always been amazing pillars of the community and the news of your father’s passing absolutely breaks my heart! I feel so blessed and grateful to have been able to spend a bit of time with them at the alumni basketball tournament last month! This life is far too short and we need to embrace and hold dear those we love! You and the family are in my thoughts and prayers. Your dad was a loved, respected, and admired man who will be missed by many…”

Earl Ford’s Memorial Service has been scheduled for Monday, April 1, 2019, at 11:00 a.m. It will be held at the Lane Memorial Gardens & Funeral Home, 5300 W. 11th Ave, Eugene.

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